Resources

WEBSITES

Unveiled Wife

Jennifer Smith writes weekly marriage articles including encouragements, devotions, and prayers of the day. If there’s a struggle in your marriage, she’s most likely written a prayer for it.

Nitty Gritty Love

A mother/daughter duo that tells it like it is. The blunt, non-fluff advice on how to fight for your marriage. No sugar-coating here! There were countless times I read this blog, breathed a sigh of relief, and was reminded I am not alone.

To Love, Honor, and Vacuum

Sheila Wray Gregoire is a popular speaker, blogger, and the author, including The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. She loves encouraging women in their relationships, both with God and with their husbands, children, and friends.

A Christian Girl’s Guide to Divorce

A blog full of the sometimes harsh reality of what it means to be a Christian and divorced. It’s a taboo world out there.

Divorce Care

If your marriage goes this route, this will be your foundation for survival. I attribute a lot of why my heart and mind are healthy again to this organization.

BOOKS

The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

Stormie joyfully inspires you to develop a deeper relationship with your husband by utilizing the amazing power of prayer. This uplifting resource is packed with practical advice on praying for specific areas of your husband’s life, including his

-decision-making

-fears

-spiritual strength

-role as father, leader

-faith and future

If you desire a closer relationship with your spouse, you will appreciate the life illustrations, encouraging Bible verses, and the assurances of God’s promises and power for your marriage.”

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Tim Keller

Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong. Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.”

Love Must be Tough: New Hope for Marriages in Crisis by James Dobson

“You’ve forgiven a thousand times. You’ve bent over backwards to make your partner feel loved and accepted. But the only reward for your loyalty has been anger, indifference, infidelity, or abuse. Your spouse may even be ready to walk out the door.

Do you feel like all is lost? Are you ready to give up? There is still hope. Dr. James Dobson’s “tough love” principles have proven to be uniquely valuable and effective. Unlike most approaches to marriage crisis, the strategy in this groundbreaking classic does not require the willing cooperation of both spouses. Love Must Be Tough offers the guidance that gives you the best chance of rekindling romance, renewing your relationship, and drawing your partner back into your arms.”

Shattered Vows by Deborah Lasser

“Infidelity doesn’t have to ruin your life―or your marriage If you have been devastated by your husband’s sexual betrayal―whether an isolated incident or a long-term pattern of addiction―you need to know you don’t have to live as a victim. If you choose to stay in your marriage, you have options other than punishing, tolerating, or ignoring your spouse; in fact, extraordinary growth awaits a woman willing to deal with the pain of her husband’s struggles with sexual purity. Even if a spouse will not participate in a program for healing, a woman who has been sexually betrayed can change her own life in powerful and permanent ways. This sensitive guide provides practical tools to help you make wise and empowering decisions, emotional tools to develop greater intimacy in your life, and spiritual tools to transform your suffering. Debra Laaser’s personal journey through betrayal, her extensive work with hundreds of hurting women, and her intimate marriage two decades after the disclosure of her husband’s infidelity provide meaningful answers to the questions that arise amid the complex fallout of broken vows. The pain endured from sexual betrayal can break your heart, but it does not need to break your life.”

Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair by Dave Carder

“Written by respected pastor and marriage counselor Dave Carder, this revised and expanded version of Torn Asunder sorts through the factors that contribute to infidelity and then maps out a recovery process for both partners. With compassion and wisdom rooted in the Bible, Carder offers insight for the victims of adultery, the perpetrators, and those who seek to help hurting couples.

Along the way Carder also answers questions like:

Why did this happen?

We didn’t actually sleep together, so is it still an affair?

Can I trust my spouse again?

Should I reveal a secret affair?

What if my spouse doesn’t want me back?

What do we tell the kids?”

The Smart Stepfamily – 7 Steps to a Healthy Family  by Ron L. Deal

“Leading stepfamily expert Ron L. Deal reveals the seven fundamental steps to blended family success and provides practical, realistic solutions to the issues you face as a stepfamily. Whether married or soon-to-be-married, you’ll discover how to

  • Solve the everyday puzzles of stepparenting and stepchildren relationships
  • Communicate effectively with an ex-spouse
  • Handle stepfamily finances confidently
  • “Cook” your stepfamily slowly rather than expect an instant blend

This revised and expanded edition has updated research and two new chapters with even more real-world advice on topics such as stepsibling relationships and later-life stepfamilies.”

“I highly recommended the first edition, and I am even more excited about this new edition.”

–from the foreword by Gary Chapman, PhD, author of The Five Love Languages

Wicked Not! by Holly Carney

Wicked Not! is on a mission to radically change the negative stigma of “Step-Mother”. This is a movement to encourage love, sharing and caring for the needs of the child instead of focusing on the adult. Our long term plan is to help foster a nurturing relationship between stepmothers and their children. The stepmother role will be demystified as we celebrate a new archetype ~ an “Apple Mom”, one who is loving, understanding and positively impacts the lives of the children she is raising.”