It’s comical to me that I actually know this happened considering I am THE WORST at knowing what is going on in the lives of celebrities. I never know who is in what movie or TV show and I always seem to butcher the names of those I think I do know. Before last week, I didn’t even know these two were a celebrity couple. Thanks to the social media world, I saw this and found it interesting. So, who’s seen Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan’s separation announcement? I had mixed emotions when I read it. I thought it was mature and wise of them to come forward with a statement that both gave glory to their union, and also gave an honest direction of where they are going present day. However, any time I hear of a couple calling it quits, I can’t help but think of the pain as well.
My personal conviction about marriage is that growing apart isn’t a reason for divorce. I know people out there disagree, and that’s fine, but for me, I think there are always ways to grow together. The grass is greenest where you water it, right? With that, it’s hard for me to wrap my mind around this process being as peaceful as they describe it. Mind you, this was their social media announcement and we all know social media just shows our life highlights, not our behind the scenes.
Which leads me to a separate (but related) tangent … We just never know what the next person is going through. However this announcement was meant to come across to the general public, we don’t know the layers behind it. And, of all the major lessons my divorce taught me, this was my favorite … Stop being so damn judgy. You don’t really know what anyone is going through. I remember looking like hell in Target because my life had just been turned upside down and the looks of pity I received didn’t help one bit. So, when I see that same despair on a stranger, I say a small prayer for them and hope their day turns up because I don’t know what their behind the scenes looks likes.
As much as I love this announcement and want to root for this couple (that I know nothing about in real life), I just remember having a social media smile with a crumbling marriage in the background. No one would have thought twice. I like the positive spin, but the thing about divorce is that it’s always sad. Even if it’s what you feel in your heart as the right route. It’s the loss of an entire life together with someone you thought would be a partner for the rest of your days.
So, do I like the peaceable and respectful way this was communicated to the general public? Yes. Do I think it sounds like separation and divorce is a walk in the park? A little bit. Do I really know where they stand and the real feelings that played into this decision? Nope, not even a little bit.
I want to know your thoughts on the matter. Write in and let me know if you think the announcement was too fluffy for the subject at hand or if you thought it was tasteful and mature or who are we to even have our two cents on the matter. As always, my prayers are with you and I hope your week is full of peace.