First off, if you love Jesus freak worship music as much as I do, please do me a solid and listen to the songs below. I heard them this morning and was reminded how we can get through anything with the Lord’s comfort and presence (divorce included).
Other great reminders I have encountered this week have been reflections of a past conversation and reading through a motivational piece on healing from painful experiences, both of which I’ll share.
I remember having a conversation pretty fresh after the affair about how I just couldn’t imagine my life without my (now ex) husband. We committed to forever when we got married and when those vows were said I removed the idea that this person would ever leave my life. So when the unthinkable happens, and they are abruptly taken from your union, it feels impossible for life to go on. The advice I received was this: Think of the life you had before the two of you met. We met when I was 22, so that would be 21 years. 21 years of experiences, friendships, adventures, growth, you name it … Rich and fulfilling years lived without this person. And guess what? There will be those years after he’s gone.
Now, at the time, this advice probably caused a scene of me sobbing in public. I didn’t want to imagine life without my husband. It just brought me too much sadness. However, over time this advice rung truth. My life and all that made up who I am was amazing before he was in my life and it will continue to be after he’s out of my life. I totally get that you feel like there’s no life without that person, but I am here (and living proof) to tell you there is plenty of life to be lived without them. And like the good kind of living, not the kind weighed down by someone else’s toxic choices. So please, remind yourself over and over again, that your life existed before and it will more than exist (and then some) after.
On to my next piece of Wednesday encouragement! I was reading a piece about how to recover from painful experiences.
I loved how simple, yet powerful this was:
Let it hurt.
Let it bleed.
Let it heal.
And let it go.
Good stuff right there! Last and certainly NOT least, thank you all so much for your encouragement and support over the release of my book. The “official” launch date is coming soon, but I can’t thank you all enough for the incredible feedback I have received. This community was a huge motivator to finish writing the book as some days I did not have faith that it would actually get done. As always, I thank you for sharing your hearts with me and I am happy we are together as one tribe moving forward from divorce.